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Thursday, June 28, 2007, Thursday, June 28, 2007
Weddings - Getting Married
In the midst of work, let me take some time off to execute my faithful task of writing my 'dairy' daily. :) Been talking to close friends about the above topic recently for the past few months and as I talk to different ones, I always never fail to gain a different aspect of getting married and the preparations needed!. Just by talking and writing about it makes me feel excited already!..hahaah!...i think i am the only guy that get excited about marriage at a youthful age of 25 yrs old.
Anyway, allow me to share my 5 cents worth of thoughts. :)
Firstly, getting married requires the couple to have a strong financial base made up of savings, liquidable investments and stocks etc etc. To put it simply, if I can pay it off by cash, I will do that instead of running to a bank for loans. Of course, that might not be entirely possible given the amount of cash that the couple would need to have. The estimated amount needed for the entire wedding and home preparation is around SGD$80K. So if per say the couple plans to get married in 4 years time, then it would transalate to be a monthly savings of:
80000/(12*4) = $1700 per couple.
$1700/ 2 = $850 per person (assuming if the couple is ok with sharing the burden; else the man shld save in full).
This is calculated based on the current inflation rate and assuming that the prices of consumer items such as washing machine, refridgerator doesn't increase over the next 4 years. Please pardon me for my half baked financial analysis because I am trying my best to write one now..haha!.. :)
Secondly, getting married requires the couple to be secure emotionally. One of the main causes of a relationship breakdown is an over-controlling partner on either side. I personally feel that the best relationship that a person can enjoy with his/her partner is one that you know that you are not living your life or breathing your nexr breath because of the person alone but for a greater cause at large; eg: Living your destiny out for Christ. Being able to see the bigger picture in all situations often allow the individual to be able to take a step back and consider their next move carefully without rushing into making a decision.
Easier said than done but with practice, one can only get better at making wise decisions.
In order for the couple to feel secure, the centre of the relationship must always be Christ because it is basically the same approach for the other aspects of our lives isn't it?. Financial, Health, Spiritual; we are all able to make Him the centre of the various aspects, so why can't we make Him the centre of our relationship too?. I envision the day where I can pray with my girlfriend/wife over the phone or pray together because when you pray, you open yourself up to a whole new world of possibilites in your spirit and allow yourself to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit again.
Sometimes, I wonder if I am really thinking too far ahead in this aspect but it never hurts to plan ahead isn't it?. Although I might be planning this alone now, I know and i know in my spirit that the day would come where I would sit down with my fiancee and plan through all the minor and major items on our marriage agenda checklist. To go through the renovation process of our flat, selecting furnitures, electrical appliances etc etc..its going to be so exciting! :)
Ok, but I still need to take ONE step at A time and to make every decision I make a wise one.
I am really enjoying the process right now of getting to know her better. Everytime we talk and share various things, its simply awesome and mind-blowing because we could just keep on going on sharing, chatting, sharing, chatting..haha...and for the first time, I prayed for her last night over the phone!..glad that the prayer went smooth and she was blessed!.
If you are reading this entry, just want to say that I really appreciate you for all you have done. Lets continue to encourage each other, be there for one another and continue to lift this friendship into His hands ok?. Because in due time and season, He will make ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL. :)
I am so blessed.
me
