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Tuesday, February 20, 2007, Tuesday, February 20, 2007
A Story of Boy Meet Girl
A tale of 2 individuals bounded together by a common destiny; In Christ.
As I start to weave this story together with my words, kindly indulge in the various emotions displayed and the everyday life storyline. Feel free to critque as this is my very 1st time writing a story. Narrative? Descriptive? Factual? Fact or Fiction?
You decide what it will be to you.
Benjamin was a regular local guy who grew up without any aims or goals in life. Looking just like the average guy on the street, he never did quite stood out from the crowd or from his friends. When he was in school, he was never the top student, but instead always fighting not to be the 1st; from bottom that was.
Whenever his parents or his relatives asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up, he would always respond in the same manner; a shrug of the shoulder followed by a meek smile.
He was never quite secure emotionally. This could be as a result of his scarred childhood where he was constantly laughed and mocked at by his classmates of being stinky, fat and dirty. He never could find solace in the 'friends' he had because ultimately they will always fail him one way or another.
He found it very hard to trust anyone anymore; let alone telling other people how he actually felt on the inside of him. Failing to confide in anyone made it even more impossible for him to manage expectations that was placed on his not so broad shoulders. Although most of the expectations were not spoken out, he could almost feel the pressure whenever his smarter cousins came visiting during CNY.
Grades were always compared.
Scores were always scrutinised.
Performance was a subject that is always discussed at the dinner table
And he never quite understood the ultimate purpose of going through all this.
Discouraged, he withdrew.
Fast forward many years later, Benjamin found a friend.
A true friend that he can confide in.
A friend that he knows would never let him down.
A friend who gave up His life to save him.
A friend who never gives up on him whenever he falls.
At last, he found the life he wanted. He began to be motivated in everything that he does; or rather he tried to be. He found awesome company in the many friends that he got to know through the first friend he found. He found true love, encouragement, care and concern that he had never found besides his parents.
He found his future filled with hope, love and light.
Relationally, Ben always wanted to find a partner that he could truly love and care for. One came and went. Though he was broken and saddened by that, his friends rallied around him and gave him the support and positive affirmation that he so needed in his life then. He took 6 months to recover from the hurt to be able to truly look straight into his former lover's eyes and ask "Hows your day?".
However, he had never failed to trust in his first friend's words that he will eventually find the right one in the near future. Although throughout the process of time, he got to know many other people and made many mistakes, this very first friend still forgave him and told him that he could start all over again.
He failed and felled.
Once
Twice
Thrice
Benjamin got so discouraged to a point of time when he even thought of giving up the thought of finding that person anymore. "What is the point of getting hurt once again?" He thought to himself sometimes. But there was something inside of him that always told him not to give up.
The voice in Ben was soothing at times.
Warm when the weather was cold.
Stern when Ben wanted to rebel.
Loving when Ben felt alone.
The voice was always there and at times even as Ben cried out alone when he could no longer bear the loneliness, the voice would still calmly tell him "Don't worry." "One day it will come."
Standing on what the voice said; Ben continued to trust and work hard for his job; attended weddings believing that one day he would too do the same with his wife.
In the following months, he prospered in his job and was successful in the eyes of others. Even though he might still feel lonely at times, he is now secure in his emotions because he knows that it is just a matter of time that he will find the right one.
He continued to believe
He continued to trust
He wavered but stood firm
Because he knew and understood that His friend will provide.
Soon after, Ben got to know a colleague at work and though they have just met, they seemed to have endless conversations on life, faith, future plans, family and shared their views on many issues. Time will fly past when they are on the phone and before they knew it, it would always be time to say goodbye again.
Ben thought to himself.
"Is she the one?"
He wanted to be excited but yet past experiences warned him against it.
He wanted to acclerate but wisdom guided him to slow down.
He then realised one thing.
He had matured. The past experiences had helped to shape the Benjamin of today.
He needed to wait for Him to tell and confirm if she is the one.
And till today, Benjamin is still waiting.
Points to be taken away
Sometimes we don't understand why we are going through so much hurt and discouragement at certain points of our lives, but it all serves a greater purpose; which is to shape our destiny that was written by our Abba Father.
The most important is when we go through times of trials, hurt, discouragement and hatred, we have to keep on believing that things will turn for the better and ultimately be resolved.
We are all on a train that is heading towards one destination; the future.
However, as we head towards the destination, let us not forget on learning the lessons on this everyday journey that we take.
Simply because, it is through these lessons that we learn life. and the beauty of being able to live it.
I hope you have enjoyed reading this story.
Boy meets God; Boy meets Girl.
A tale of 2 individuals; bounded together by a common destiny in Christ.
me
