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Tuesday, October 03, 2006, Tuesday, October 03, 2006
Marriage
A brand new day; A brand new post.
I loved writing blogs in the morning rather than in the night not just because I am feeling fresh and awake; but at the same time, my mind isn't cluttered and strained by work; projects; indifferent happenings etc. Last night as I was walking towards Funan IT Mall, I passed by the Cavenangh Bridge and saw a couple in the midst of taking their wedding photos. I took a glimpse towards the bridegroom and he appeared irritated by the photographer's numerous demands to tilt left; look right and smile. On the otherh hand, the bride didn't seem very comfortable too. At that moment, a thought just struck me. If marriage is so tiring, why get married in the first place?
Don't get me wrong. I am not advocating the "live together but not married" lifestyle. But when a couple decides to get married, is it because of the moment of romantic sugar rush when he gets down on his knees to propose or is it because that both parties have already thought it over and decided that "Yes, I would want to spend the rest of my life with _______ ".
What would be the most important of considerations? Is it finances? Looks? Maturity in all aspects? Or is it simply love?
To me, love is the fuel that keeps a relationship going; it is the substance that will keep the spark between 2 people going even when things are not going well. It is the motivating factor that will prompt the husband to turn over to his wife to give her a peck in the morning (without her putting on the mascara, eye shadow and most importanly foundation). However, love alone is not enough. I have learnt that love alone can't provide a good marriage. Try asking a couple to live without any stable income for a month and you could immediately see the strain on their relationship. But still, there is an even more important consideration towards marriage than just finances; our personal relationship with Him.
Throughout this year, I have learnt to walk closer with Him. Not just a religious facade, but as you yield your heart, your life, your all to Him, you will learnt to let go of certain matters that has been tangling in your mind for as long as you can remember.
Its was only recently that I got a breakthrough in this area; that through the wise counsel of my friends, I realise that I have not been taking the viewpoint of the other party in everything that I do. Although my intentions could be right, but the timing and method of delivery is equally important. Too many mis-interpretations have happened and I can't just continue to live life as though it only surrounds me and me alone.
Yesterday night was simply magical. 1 sent; 1 recieved. Another sent; another recieved.
God, You are truly good and worthy to be praised! I love You!
me
